On this cold Monday, I hope to ask this wise and wonderful personal question: do you have any advice on how to present children to a new couple after divorcing?
Freddie and I have been dating for about six months, and I would love to know him. As I mentioned, he is a high school history teacher with two children, and is very fun and sweet. We have talked about meeting the children of the other, and when time feels good, I would love to have a loose and soft plan in its place.
Three notes for me:
1. Without PDA, of course !!!
2. Keep it quickly, maybe half an hour? For the first meeting, Short feels good.
3. Maybe Freddie can bring your dog to help break the ice.
As for the hanging of themselves, Freddie could always come to our house, so the children would be in their territory and could go to their rooms if they yearned for a break, or we could find ourselves in “neutral territory”, such as our favorite ice cream shop or the neighborhood park with basketball rings. In addition, we could wait a few more months to make the introduction, although I could solve any nerve so that my children realize that Freddie is a good cold father, not a terrifying scared figure.
It is curious, during my 15 years of raising the children, I have generally been able to trust my instinct or read books to see what it resonates, but now something will throw me into a loop, and this great step is to do exactly that. I briefly mentioned my nerves in this big salad bulletin problem, and some readers generously shared their own experiences:
“I introduced my two girls to my boyfriend last summer: we met to walk in the afternoon, we feed some ducks (I know, I know) and we got ice cream. The fact that your boy is a teacher and dad will help. Know the children and how to approach them better (sometimes not approaching them) is key. ” – Brittani
“I was in the same situation a year ago. My boyfriend came to kill a spider (a black widow, so really scary). He approached, appeared to my son, killed the spider and left. The whole visit lasted five minutes, and my son saw him as an assistant and a hero. Then, when he entered into conversation a day later, my son was open to join us for a brief way out. ” – Katie
“I asked my 13 -year -old how I wanted to meet my boyfriend, and she said: ‘Can you enter and say hey?’ He did that, and then, a few weeks later, we went to dinner and played the cards. idea From him ‘” – Marlena
“My dear friend is in a serious relationship with a father of two children, and the idea of her partner was very good: she had told her children some things about her, and finally came home to help all rakes one afternoon. There was a clear, collaborative and low task, so the approach was not to meet this person (or even a conversation), and the children were on their own grass and could choose their own commitment and level of proximity at all times. “
Thoughts? I would be very grateful for any advice or wisdom. Thank you very much, as always. Xoxoxo In addition, speaking of new partners, this line of my friend Erika’s bulletin made me hahaha:
PD: Five things that surprised me about divorce, and the script we used to tell our children that we divorced ourselves.
(PHOTO FROM FACE DOLAN/STOCKSY. The opening photo makes me wonder if Freddie, like Sally, will ask: “One of us is supposed to be a dog In this scenario ??? ”)
