10 Surprising Parenting Tips | Cup of Jo

One of the best achievements that I have had since I have become a mother is this: if you want good advice for the raising of children, you have to go directly to the source: your fellow parents. Today, COJ’s friends share their best parenting tips, from dealing with fussy dining rooms to weathering tantrums …

Something I have learned myself:

1. One of the easiest ways to build the trust of a small child is to let them help him with a daily task such as cooking or stirring the floors. Yes, at first they usually end up leaving you more work to clean, which can be a drag. But the expression of his face when they dominate a new skill, such as pouring pancake ingredients into a bowl without spill or sweeping a small pile of dust? Magic.

Of Abbey:

2. My secret weapon for chilling? We played dinner board games. Because when the children are focused on drawing their next Movement of Connect Four, they mysteriously forget what they love to resist: a new texture, an unknown vegetable, a meal that you know they like but have decided to hate. Currently, our dinner table has become a night tournament of Chinese ladies. We have succeeded with Junior Scrabble and those classic fishing games as well. He does wonders with children from five to seven years.

Ruth:

3. Take more videos of your child than you think you need or want. Take so many that you are ashamed of how many videos you have. The photos are great, but you will never regret having only one more video of your son’s back during that past week that was crawling, before deciding to walk from here.

From Miranda:

4. Solve greet your child with delight every morning. You don’t have to be ‘in’ the rest of the time, of course, but start your son’s day with a friendly face is to change life. My wonderful mother did this for me, and after her sudden death, I decided to do it for my children.

5. It is fine to let the children fail. You can feel terrible, but it is important.

From Loryn:

6. You can’t stop a complete tantrum in the middle, so you don’t even try. All you can do is recognize your feelings, and then wait so long that you need to make your child pass it. For my son, that can be a long time. Then, I make a point during the tantrums concentrate on my own calm with deep breaths. Over time, their emotional storms have calmed down more and more. Your child willpower Finally, develop the ability to self -regulate, but until then, try not to be too hard with them or themselves.

From Caroline:

7. My last baby trick is called *nap cape *. Basically: when your baby is overestimulated and having difficulty falling asleep, slide the front of your hat on your eyes, then rockea or walk through a little, and Bam. They are out. Basically it is a mask for babies and works well in brilliant places such as airport or in a restaurant.

8. I have three children, six years, four and two, and I love reading them. If you are seeing a program, I will sit close to them on the couch and read my novel. If they are drawing, I will draw with them for a while and then I will go to read. If they are running around the park, I am in a bank with my book. This did not start as a way to take advantage of their subconscious and force them to love reading, but now my six -year -old son is reading independently and constantly saying things like ‘Mom, maybe this afternoon we could have a little cozy reading time.’ ‘ It feels like a pending peak.

From Edith:

9. Consider continuing those bogadas accounts and instagram bulletins of constant adhesives. Seeing ‘how to be a better father’ all day is exhausting. You are doing it very well.

From Jenny:

10. What would say to the new parents is: Do not hit yourself if you go up a path that you thought you would not go down, such as using a pacifier or not dinner at the table as a family. Children are much more games to change things when you are ready than you think. Nothing is put into stone.

Thank you very much, parents. What would you add?

PS: The home as a refuge, and in which parenting stage is it right now?

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